好奇实验室 | 灵魂36问是否会让两个人坠入爱河 Can 2 Fall in Love with 36 Questions
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感觉被生活和职场PUA了?多久没跟自己的灵魂对话了?上一次走心聆听别人又是什么时候?展现脆弱就不可爱了吗?
美国心理学家 Arthur Aron 博士,在<人际亲密感的产生:实验程序及部分初步发现>一文中,曾设计了一个实验:他让参与实验的陌生人,两两分组坐在一起,在45分钟内,让他们彼此提问并回答36个问题,回答之后让彼此凝视4分钟。最终实验结论:发展亲密关系的关键,是要双方不断持续和深入地相互坦白自己的内心。只要两个人彼此足够坦诚、相互分享与交流,人们是可以快速喜欢上一个陌生人的。
A psychologist conducted an experiment that could lead any two people to fall in love with just 36 questions.
Arthur Aron博士的这个“爱上陌生人”的实验,后来被很多人所效仿。一位大学教授Mandy Len Catron,和刚认识的一位陌生男人,尝试了此实验,结果迅速培养出感情,坠入情网。她把自己的经历,在《纽约时报》的情感专栏上发表了文章<只要你这么做,想爱上任何人都可以>,随后这系列的36个问题在各种社交网络上走红,引起了众多人的兴趣与试验,被称之为“爱上任何人的36个问题”。Julibee团队在Youtube拍摄了一组叫<Tea for Two>的视频,来亲自验证两个陌生人回答完这36个问题的之后,是否还有意愿go for a second date.
Jubilee Team from Youtube created a series of videos called <Tea for Two> and decided to see for themselves exactly what would happen if they brought 2 complete strangers together to answer those questions on a blind date.
这次,在北京,我们作为试验官的一员,期待把这样的体验一同带给对此感兴趣的你们。
HERE IN BEIJING, we hope together with you to bring the experience to those who are interested in this experiment.
实验流程:
- 2pm-2:30pm 朝阳公园集合,一起玩OH卡(源于德国的潜意识投射卡)破冰。
- 2:30pm-3:30pm 主持人给出36个问题,分享一些倾诉和聆听原则,视情况两两分组或多人一组行问答。
- 3:30pm-4pm 主持人组织大家分享实验感受,每位嘉宾互相介绍和认识。随后后大家可以随兴聚餐或小酌
- 2pm-2:30pm - Meet at Chaoyang Park, and then have an ice-breaking interaction.
- 2:30pm-3:30pm Host will share36 questions, share some principles of talking and listening, and group you in pairs or small groups.
- 3:30pm-4pm Host will invite everyone to share their feelings about the experiment, everyone will introduce themselves and get to know each other. Afterwards, everyone can have dinner together.
实验要求:
- 参与者是单身状态
- 请在活动行报名,报名后请加主持人Sunnie微信进群:chenqianyi999,备注<36问+姓名>
- 考虑的实验配对性,报名后无法赴约请提前告知,否则会记在小本本将无法参加以后的活动
We hope you:
- To be very single
- Register at the HuodongXing App or website, and please add host Sunnie on Wechat: chenqianyi999
- Inform us in advance that you will not be able to attend the event after registration, otherwise you will not be able to participate in future events.
活动说明:
- 不要求会英语哒
- 纯自我探索+实验室形式交友,非blind date,非心理/婚恋机构
- 深入聊天容易拉近彼此距离,同时也请各位试验官注意保护好自己
- 实验会安排不曾问过彼此这36个问题的两个人,也会在尊重大家意愿基础上灵活调整形式
- 往期参加的伙伴以85后、90后为主,每期限定20位试验官
- 朝阳公园有5元门票费
放下探探,撕掉标签,赤诚相见~ 玩过36问的伙伴都说神奇。相信觉得这个实验有趣的,都一定是对味的人呀 :)
More info you might want to know:
- Pure self-exploration + lab-style blind dating, NOT hosted by any psychological/marriage agency
- The experiment will involve two people who speak the same language but have never asked each other these 36 questions
- Chaoyang Park has a 5yuan entrance fee
- You are very welcome to join!
组织者和主持人Sunnie,跨语言和文化工作者。
从<遇见未知的自己>到<心流>到<非暴力沟通>到OH卡,
到BMC北京正念中心<自我关怀>
和 Isha<内在工程>内修,再到戏剧表演,
感兴趣一切与自己与世界连接的趣事,和一群对味的人。
Sunnie Chan, Chinese instructor, host of Chinese Gang event.
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